Who knows your good stories?

Last week I had dinner with a friend. We talked about people who trouble us, and those who brought joy and now are gone. Then she asked: “How’s _____ ?”

I paused and remembered a sweet, generous thing this person did for me. No one knew about it. Why? I had not told anyone this good story.

We all have a repertoire of stories we repeat. We tell them to others, and we repeat them to ourselves in a little tape that plays inside our heads:

  • The time I found roaches crawling all over the walls of a nursing home.
  • How my little sisters tore handfuls of cake from my prize-winning entry to the county fair.

  • That awful time my car was stolen.
  • How someone put my dog to sleep without telling me.

Tweet: Out loud, or to ourselves, we tell the same stories over and over. Why don’t we tell more good stories?--Tweet this http://ctt.ec/Ve73

Out loud, or to ourselves, we tell the same stories over and over. Why don’t we tell more of the good stories?  —  Tweet this

We get more sympathy from tales of toil and trouble

People rally to disaster, and for that, I am grateful since I have had my share of disasters. Deep friendships and soul connections are often forged during adversity. It’s a beautiful thing. Yet if I get in the habit of trotting out my tried and true stories of tragedy as a way to connect with people, I get stuck in a rut of misery. I attract friends who are comfortable with the drama of suffering when I want to spend time with people who love the adventure of life.

We get more laughs from stories of disaster and crisis                                                                                                              

This is me! I am guilty!

  • Did I tell you about the time I lost both my engagement and wedding rings a week after the wedding?
  • Were you aware the same day I informed my cancer-stricken father he was not safe to drive, I got in an accident driving him around town?
  • Did you know my new puppy exhumed the carcass of the old dog from an illegal burial place in my posh subdivision?

You did? I told you those stories? Yes, I thought so. 😊

We face jealousy and resentment if we talk about success and blessing

This is serious, and sad. The Bible says we are to weep with those who weep, and rejoice with those who rejoice. In my opinion, it is easier to find weepers than rejoicers. I recently started a master mind group of entrepreneurial, creative business women and one big lesson I’ve learned is the power of talking about successes and wins. It ramps up my energy to talk about what went well in my week. It’s exciting to know people celebrate and cheer my success.

Family stories dominate Kim Edward’s book The Lake of Dreams, which I feature in The Booktalklady’s next video. The protagonist Lucy Jarrett is troubled by unresolved questions about her father’s death. As she unravels several family mysteries she finds stories of love and beauty that heal her grief and allow her to move on with her life. We all need healing in one way or another, and I found this gentle, mystical story soothed my grief over my father’s death.

At the end of that dinner with my friend, I told her how someone helped me in a generous, heartfelt, and respectful way. I liked telling the story, and I want to repeat it, especially in the things I tell myself.

Do you have good stories? Promise to tell them. Be sure to listen when others tell theirs.

© 2016 Booktalk Lady LLC

6 thoughts on “Who knows your good stories?”

Leave a Comment

Your email address will not be published.

This site is protected by reCAPTCHA and the Google Privacy Policy and Terms of Service apply.

More from the Blog

exercise for stress relief

Three Keys to Exercise for Stress Relief

Exercise for Stress Relief Exercise can be a huge contributor to stress relief. Yet if you push yourself too hard or workout too intensely, you set yourself up for injury, burnout, and increased blood cortisol levels that may promote the accumulation of belly fat. Watch this one-minute video, then read on to learn three keys

kale chips in oven

Margaret’s Specialty Kale Chips In Oven

Kale Chips In Oven When I heard that my five-year-old granddaughters requested their mother’s kale chips in oven recipe for their special birthday meal, I knew I needed to learn how to make them! Easy Green Veggie Recipe The recipe is super simple: Three ingredients (four if you add the optional Parmesan cheese) Five minutes

recipe spinach balls ingredients

Recipe Spinach Balls for Green Veggies

Recipe Spinach Balls A Quick and Easy Appetizer This appetizer recipe for spinach balls is a fun way to eat green veggies without having to have a salad every day! The recipe spinach balls makes two dozen, which is great for a party. If you have left overs, re-heat four to six for a quick,

What gratitude means: ways you are rich

What Gratitude Means To me, what gratitude means is a mindset focused one the good things in my life. That helps me see how many ways I am rich, regardless of circumstances. Certainly it’s easy to dwell on dire warnings of a possible recession, the high price of gas and groceries, and the elevated cost


From Deborah Rankin, RD

Five Things to Start Now to Lose Belly Fat